Saturday, August 12, 2006
You know what I just realized???? I have not really been saying the nice things about my husband, just the bad. I do not want to give the impression that he was the only one at fault in this marriage. It was me too, but just like my sis-in-law says....."You don't fix problems in one marriage by another marriage." I love my husband very much. He has his faults, but his strengths outweigh his weaknesses. He is good to me and is fair to both me and Lisa (sometimes too fair ; ) ), but I guess that is his duty as a Muslim. He is as fair as he can be, but she is the one who gave up her rights to maintenance so he insha Allah won't be accountable for that, but I know that if he could afford to maintain her then he would. Anyways I wanted to make sure that it is known that my husband is a good man and is wonderful to me majority of the time, but their is a part of me that is ungratful because of the hurt. I know I need to get over this. He is stressed and a bit overwhelmed with his work situation so that's why he hasn't been himself lately. One way for us women to feel grateful in our situations, I believe, is to follow the Sunnah and always compare our lives to those who have less than us and then our situations will seem petty. I wish I can always keep this in mind for myself and then ALHAMDULILLAH will be in my head, on my tounge, and in my heart.