Lisa and I text message eachother today and here is how it goes.....
Lisa: salam. I miss U
Vena: Salam. Sure U do.
Vena: Y don't u ever call me then?
Lisa: I like the messages better.
(She meant text messages. We love the sound of receiving texts. We text A loooooot. )
Vena: So Y not text me then? I was seriously upset with u.
( I told my hubby a few days ago how she never calls to invite me, but I always do. I am the one who calls and texts most of the time and when she doesn't and I get fed up and don't call she gets sad and says I forgot about her and gives me a guilt trip.)
Vena: Yeah..... He (our husband) didn't tell u?
Vena: I just hate feeling that our friendship is one sided.
Lisa: U know I miss our friendship before. When it was just U and me. I feel like U don't need me anymore. U have so many people around U and I know I had a lot to do with it since I married HIM but I miss US then. When we used to wash clothes together, go shopping, when we used to spend the whole day together at ur home.....sometimes watching Tyra, decorating......I know it's stupid......
(she means before when she lived with me....before she married my husband)
Vena: It's not stupid....I miss that too. I don't hang out with hardly anyone anymore. I guess I just have this false expectation that we should be closer than we are.
Lisa: I don't know how to get close to U anymore.
Vena: Me either, but I'm trying.
Lisa: I know U are I always see that.
Vena: I just want 2 see it from u 2.
Lisa: I don't know how to but I will try.
Vena: Just act like b4 when we lived together. Don't treat me like I'm the other woman.
Vena: Anyways if He decides to stay at the masjid 2nite and u want 2 stay over then let me know cuz I will b all alone. All my kids except the baby are staying at his ex-wife's house.
Vena: Only if u want 2 of course. I will not get mad if u don't.
Lisa: Ok. Crazy.
Later that night. My husband calls me when I am at his ex-wife's house. We chit chat a while and he tells me that he will probably stay at the masjid that night. I told him it's a good idea and that I told lisa she can come stay with me because I will be all by myself. So he liked the idea and said he would talk to her about it because it made sense to do that. Instead of him waking up to go for Qiyam al layl he would just sleep at the masjid on her day and on mine and wake up for qiyam at the masjid itself. I thought he was going to, but then I got a few more texts saying......
Lisa: R u at the masjid?
Vena: no. Y?
Lisa: I don't think he is gonna stay at the masjid.
Vena : (thinking "weird, but ok") OH OK!!!
Lisa: What r u doing?
Vena: I'm at his ex's house. I'm about 2 go home in half an hour insha Allah.
WEIRD I don't know what do say.....I am not going to go out of my way anymore insha Allah. I don't want to keep disappointing myself and if she gets mad that I don't call then so be it. I will not try alone. A friendship has to be two ways.......end of story!!!!!