tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32207826.post4671551270216897067..comments2019-11-12T06:08:59.908-06:00Comments on Thoughts of a First Wife: Venahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15011130955742407024noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32207826.post-53596406827809997382007-10-04T01:22:00.000-06:002007-10-04T01:22:00.000-06:00Dear Vena... I truly understand why you created th...Dear Vena... I truly understand why you created this blog. Every women needs her space to vent. Recently, my husband has met a girl he wants to marry as his second wife. She is much younger and like you, i feel so weird having to face this. I grew up in a modern monogamous family but growing up, life has thought me alot about adultery and many other sins. I know this is my takdir.. I would love Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32207826.post-52930578731462075682007-05-04T15:02:00.000-06:002007-05-04T15:02:00.000-06:00hahaha.ISLAM is NOT a faith of moderation.IF you b...hahaha.<BR/><BR/>ISLAM is NOT a faith of moderation.<BR/><BR/>IF you belive otherwise you are a Moron. No wonder you women are rotting away in polygynous marriage. No I dont feel sorry for you. You are closet perverts. Crying of injustice etc but still cant let go of the flithy practice of polygyny, of Islam itself. Bloody perverts. LOL.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32207826.post-73701185800263450852007-04-08T03:23:00.000-06:002007-04-08T03:23:00.000-06:00Assalamu Alaikum Dear Sister;I came across your bl...Assalamu Alaikum Dear Sister;<BR/><BR/>I came across your blog yesterday and haven't been able to stop reading; all i can say is your a kind and sweet person Masha Allah; and you are an amazing example. You are the kind of person who always try’s to forgive; a person who attempts to find her own faults and rectify them; and a person with a huge heart.<BR/><BR/>Insha Allah I will always try to Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32207826.post-30874373198202746772007-03-23T10:49:00.000-06:002007-03-23T10:49:00.000-06:00Assalamu Alaikum Dear Sister: You have done what ...Assalamu Alaikum Dear Sister: You have done what few do. You recognized your mistake and are correcting it. Although you seemed more merciful towards your husband's mistakes that I could have been--you were upset by them and said so. Some would say that is backbiting but only Allah's knows. You are looking at and pointing out his good points which is good for all. May Allah keep you strong and OmAabidhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17275808418358050404noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32207826.post-34598501415154604272007-03-11T15:46:00.000-06:002007-03-11T15:46:00.000-06:00I think the ability to see balance is always a pos...I think the ability to see balance is always a positive attribute. To step back and say you can see good things is truly respectable and shows a lot of personal growth. Still, one great deception has the ability to shatter the core of a relationship and one's faith, regardless of how devout a person behaves or how strictly they follow their religious dogma.<BR/><BR/>I haven't gone back to re-readSusan https://www.blogger.com/profile/06455506176926199209noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32207826.post-29967017958536955262007-03-09T08:45:00.000-06:002007-03-09T08:45:00.000-06:00Asalamalaykom Sister Vena,You know that Islam is a...Asalamalaykom Sister Vena,<BR/><BR/>You know that Islam is a faith of moderation.<BR/><BR/>Venting is not being in moderation.<BR/><BR/>And psychologists actually have found that venting your upset and anger doesn't help your stress levels decrease. It actually makes them INcrease. <BR/><BR/>One reason I stopped blogging about my personal life is that I couldn't keep going on without venting.<Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32207826.post-45231554550531726092007-03-08T13:08:00.000-06:002007-03-08T13:08:00.000-06:00As a second wife I would like to comment on your t...As a second wife I would like to comment on your thoughts regarding being in competition. My co-wife and dh have 3 children and I will be having no children, so I am constantly feeling that I am on the short end of the stick because I cannot provide him with any more children. I am not sure that it is any easier being the second wife - I am always worried that he will have second thoughts and egianqueenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13314879262600708271noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32207826.post-40414337939816876392007-03-07T13:45:00.000-06:002007-03-07T13:45:00.000-06:00assalaamu 'alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh uk...assalaamu 'alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh ukhti. i got your comment over at my blog. masha'Allah ukhti, i love you soooo much fillah and wish for you nothing but what is best. may Allah shower you with much good and repel from you the evil and protect you from the shayateen amongst humans and jinn. Ameen.<BR/><BR/>remember ukhti, YOU are the one married to your husband. nobody in the Aneesa Lewishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04410568170354507242noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32207826.post-24836644287780744272007-03-07T04:30:00.000-06:002007-03-07T04:30:00.000-06:00Assalamualaikum sister,Pray that you are in the be...Assalamualaikum sister,<BR/>Pray that you are in the best of health, inshallah. How are you coping with the pregnancy?<BR/><BR/>Sister, i don't think anyone was trying to put you down in anyway. As i have said before, only you know your husband well enough to decide what kind of a person he is. I can tell you from my own experience, that my father treats my mother really badly - we know it, sister in ukhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15006651471668324699noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32207826.post-64080434524909753772007-03-07T01:06:00.000-06:002007-03-07T01:06:00.000-06:00Assalamu Alaykum,Dear sister,Please only take the ...Assalamu Alaykum,<BR/><BR/>Dear sister,<BR/><BR/>Please only take the good from this comment and leave the bad, of course, that goes without saying (and hopefully you will find some good in it). <BR/><BR/>It seems you feel bad about writing in your blog. <BR/> you said:<BR/>"I feel extremely guilty about that..."<BR/><BR/>There is nothing wrong with that realization. <BR/><BR/>What is telling latifahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13401348007549164097noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32207826.post-24725902903846368402007-03-06T22:53:00.000-06:002007-03-06T22:53:00.000-06:00sis, even thought i've never met u, but ur words e...sis, even thought i've never met u, but ur words entered my heart..i'll always pry for u..and i know that Allah will always be with u, strenght u cus u r a good woman, mom and wife mashallah. if alot woman starte to think like u, i think this world would be a better place..sometimes i feel sad when i read some of the comments that people leave for u! but everytime i keep reading ur blog, u amaze lobna-om elzooz elazoozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16341594947968776339noreply@blogger.com