tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32207826.post115621776188667822..comments2019-11-12T06:08:59.908-06:00Comments on Thoughts of a First Wife: Venahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15011130955742407024noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32207826.post-1156435372030028102006-08-24T10:02:00.000-06:002006-08-24T10:02:00.000-06:00I don't know...he has this idea in his head that h...I don't know...he has this idea in his head that he wanted us to big one big happy family in one home...that obviously didn't work.Our Rewards Await Ushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06773505084145959305noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32207826.post-1156394827663911732006-08-23T22:47:00.000-06:002006-08-23T22:47:00.000-06:00I don't understand why your husband insists on all...I don't understand why your husband insists on all of you being pals (Our Reward Awaits Us. Why is that???Venahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15011130955742407024noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32207826.post-1156345593830876432006-08-23T09:06:00.000-06:002006-08-23T09:06:00.000-06:00"The three of us used to do things together. I use..."The three of us used to do things together. I used to drop them off at their house and then go to mine. I used to let him sit in the back with her while I drove the car."<BR/><BR/>Assalaamu alaikum! I agree with mizazeez...even though the three of us used to do things together, there is no way I could ever deal with driving them around in the back seat! It used to irritate me when my hubby wouldOur Rewards Await Ushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06773505084145959305noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32207826.post-1156304669129666822006-08-22T21:44:00.000-06:002006-08-22T21:44:00.000-06:00Salamu alaykum,I agree with Peaceful Muslimah in t...Salamu alaykum,<BR/><BR/>I agree with Peaceful Muslimah in that it is not fair to get an extra day because you have kids with him and he does not. If the cowife agrees to give up the day that is one thing but if not then c'est la vie. Also she is offering to take the kids on one of her days - say al hamdulilaah unless you don't want a free babysitter. I wish someone, anyone would offer to take Reliefhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05211136212260421829noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32207826.post-1156277915913448432006-08-22T14:18:00.000-06:002006-08-22T14:18:00.000-06:00Aww,masha'allah, you seem to love your husband and...Aww,masha'allah, you seem to love your husband and despite the extra wife seem to be in it for the long run, inshallah. even though you're stressed and maybe a little depressed with your current state try and watch the temper, cause gaurding whats between the lips is mandatory. Pray on time and stand at night to bring your concerns to Allah and ask Him for whatever it is that you really want, andMusleemahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13685925843221561520noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32207826.post-1156275833644361242006-08-22T13:43:00.000-06:002006-08-22T13:43:00.000-06:00"The three of us used to do things together. I use..."The three of us used to do things together. I used to drop them off at their house and then go to mine. I used to let him sit in the back with her while I drove the car."<BR/><BR/>okay, WOW!!! masha'Allah!!! now i know a lot of sisters are under the impression that i am strong, but i don't think i could do what is mentioned above. may Allah reward you sister. but a little bit more naseehah Aneesa Lewishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04410568170354507242noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32207826.post-1156270437421214862006-08-22T12:13:00.000-06:002006-08-22T12:13:00.000-06:00Wow Peaceful Muslimah you are absolutly right. Jaz...Wow Peaceful Muslimah you are absolutly right. Jazaki Allah khair for you input and advice and I totally agree with what you have said. I do need the extra help with the children though so I will consult with her insha Allah and ask her to please allow me to have the extra day and if she has children by him then she can have it back if she would like. If she doesn't agree then that is her right Venahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15011130955742407024noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32207826.post-1156255671512150952006-08-22T08:07:00.000-06:002006-08-22T08:07:00.000-06:00assalaamu alaikum,Ya ukhti, my heart aches for you...assalaamu alaikum,<BR/><BR/>Ya ukhti, my heart aches for you. I pray that Allah gives you comfort and eases your heart. As sister Mizazeez says, if you haven't prayed istikhara, do so. It is amazing the way Allah shows us the way when we seek his guidance. I remember praying it about whether I should stay with my husband when I first found out about his other wife. I was so distraught and angry Our Rewards Await Ushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06773505084145959305noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32207826.post-1156249213784548992006-08-22T06:20:00.000-06:002006-08-22T06:20:00.000-06:00Salaam Alaikum,I have several alarms going off in ...Salaam Alaikum,<BR/><BR/>I have several alarms going off in my head about this -- although I know that the imam told you what you wnat to hear. I will speak very honestly here and insha'Allh you will understand that I am doing so in good faith and do not mean to hurt you.<BR/><BR/>First of all, I see that you are still in a mindset to be competitive with your husband's other wife and "winning" PMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06039810429646916382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32207826.post-1156243278838971982006-08-22T04:41:00.000-06:002006-08-22T04:41:00.000-06:00assalaamu ^alayki ya habeebtee. subhanAllah, i ha...assalaamu ^alayki ya habeebtee. subhanAllah, i had no idea that things were at the condition that they are that you are at the point of asking for a khula'. my heart aches for you sister. while i don't know exactly what you are going through, i can tell you that i went through the same emotions when my hubby first remarried. i too seriously considered divorce and didn't feel like i could Aneesa Lewishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04410568170354507242noreply@blogger.com