tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32207826.post115519618538361617..comments2019-11-12T06:08:59.908-06:00Comments on Thoughts of a First Wife: Venahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15011130955742407024noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32207826.post-27288746807980073892008-10-18T12:28:00.000-06:002008-10-18T12:28:00.000-06:00I hope it is okay for me to comment here. I am an...I hope it is okay for me to comment here. <BR/><BR/>I am an American Christian who is about to marry an expat who is working in Dhahran. I found this blog as I was searching for information on the Saudi lifestyle.<BR/><BR/>WoW! I find the whole situation amazingly captivating and heartbreaking at the same time. Is this lifestyle very common? Do the men take wives without informing their Dianahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16316367453192864252noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32207826.post-1155384068880996612006-08-12T06:01:00.000-06:002006-08-12T06:01:00.000-06:00"even though your husband and co-wife hid their ma..."even though your husband and co-wife hid their marriage from you for a month, from what you have written, i really don't think this was done with ill-intentions. it was done because they truly wanted to protect your feelings."<BR/><BR/>With the utmost respect, mizazeez, I have to comment on this.<BR/><BR/>Rather than say that this was not done with ill intentions, but to protect Vena's feelings.Safahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03753208969449031396noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32207826.post-1155380953835324552006-08-12T05:09:00.000-06:002006-08-12T05:09:00.000-06:00I suppose that's what I'll write about today...how...I suppose that's what I'll write about today...how I ended up in Egypt....take a look over at my blog later....<BR/><BR/>I'm speaking arabic fluently now....and just love Mohameed Hussein Yaqoubs lectures....he comes on Channel An Nass as well.....Safahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03753208969449031396noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32207826.post-1155375296190511632006-08-12T03:34:00.000-06:002006-08-12T03:34:00.000-06:00wa alikum as salam Safa....Maybe I can find the le...wa alikum as salam Safa....Maybe I can find the lecture online on Islamway.com. Yes I understand arabic. I love his lectures. Obviously you understand arabic too right??? Do you mind me asking how you ended up in Egypt???Venahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15011130955742407024noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32207826.post-1155363208256834912006-08-12T00:13:00.000-06:002006-08-12T00:13:00.000-06:00Do you understand Arabic Vena? You mentioned that ...Do you understand Arabic Vena? You mentioned that you were egyptian.....there is a double tape by Muhammed Hussein Yaqoub called "Lil mitazowajeen faqt"..."for married couples only"....it is amazing....and puts you in the right frame of mind to be a good wife.....as well as having hubby realize his duties of being a good husband.......I've given away many sets of this as presents...don't know if Safahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03753208969449031396noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32207826.post-1155351602527093702006-08-11T21:00:00.000-06:002006-08-11T21:00:00.000-06:00Maash'Allah Vena! You really seem to have great in...Maash'Allah Vena! You really seem to have great instincts regarding polygyny. I pray your husband does too because that will make a winning combination. <BR/><BR/>Salaam Alaikum,<BR/>PMPMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06039810429646916382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32207826.post-1155349769214130742006-08-11T20:29:00.000-06:002006-08-11T20:29:00.000-06:00As salamu alikum Sisters....Jazakum Allah khair fo...As salamu alikum Sisters....Jazakum Allah khair for all the wonderful advice and support I really needed that today. I had a really horrible fight with my husband not too long ago (not about her) and I was feeling soooooo lost and I didn't know what to do. Sometimes I just want to take my four kids and escape from it all, but I know that is not being realistic. I am in the process of reading thatVenahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15011130955742407024noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32207826.post-1155349081152265772006-08-11T20:18:00.000-06:002006-08-11T20:18:00.000-06:00Mizazeez, Mashallah, you always come off optimisti...Mizazeez, Mashallah, you always come off optimistic and I like that and as I too try to stay positive. As the prophet (saaw) said the believers are hopeful. Although, I disagree wholeheartedly that we Muslim women should just give in and accept or come to terms with Muslim men starting or engaging in haraam relationships just because they eventually lead to the haraam. Laa yajooz, that's not Musleemahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13685925843221561520noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32207826.post-1155336963314590322006-08-11T16:56:00.000-06:002006-08-11T16:56:00.000-06:00PM---we know you wear a tutu but you don't need to...PM---we know you wear a tutu but you don't need to tell everyone about it....<BR/>I love you.....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32207826.post-1155321955705496492006-08-11T12:45:00.000-06:002006-08-11T12:45:00.000-06:00Hey! I am #2 too (or is that tutu?)!Hey! I am #2 too (or is that tutu?)!PMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06039810429646916382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32207826.post-1155321564620202062006-08-11T12:39:00.000-06:002006-08-11T12:39:00.000-06:00I just read all of ur BLOG, from the bottom up. I...I just read all of ur BLOG, from the bottom up. I am blown away....and totally feel your pain....we are all going thru different versions of the same story and coping is always jihad. May Allah make it easy for you.....I like the term, coming outta the P-closet. Funny. <BR/><BR/>Ummabdur-rahman may be a # 2, but ur always # 1 with me.......Safahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03753208969449031396noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32207826.post-1155320146155174342006-08-11T12:15:00.000-06:002006-08-11T12:15:00.000-06:00hey hey...salammu alaikum,I am the odd man out cuz...hey hey...salammu alaikum,<BR/>I am the odd man out cuz I am a number 2 but I love you all the same.....Vena---Insha'Allah I wish the best for you---welcome....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32207826.post-1155316975073414462006-08-11T11:22:00.000-06:002006-08-11T11:22:00.000-06:00Salaam Alaikum Sister,Thanks for joining our club ...Salaam Alaikum Sister,<BR/><BR/>Thanks for joining our club -- although most of us don't join willingly! LOL!<BR/><BR/>But seriously, I have to agree with mizazeez aboout cutting off the communication for now. Neither of you can expect to be thinking as firmly grounded Muslims with all the emtional stuff you ahve going on right now.<BR/><BR/> You will probably never really know why they kept PMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06039810429646916382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32207826.post-1155312515284237842006-08-11T10:08:00.000-06:002006-08-11T10:08:00.000-06:00assalaamu ^alayki wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu my...assalaamu ^alayki wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu my beloved sister in islam. subhanAllah, i just got finished reading all of your posts. first, i want to say that insha'Allah i pray that Allah rewards you for all the support and da'wah that you gave to "lisa" before she became your co-wife. i know in hindsight you feel like it was your reaching out to her that led to her becoming interested in Aneesa Lewishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04410568170354507242noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32207826.post-1155312148511142532006-08-11T10:02:00.000-06:002006-08-11T10:02:00.000-06:00Assalaamu alaikum dear sister...you are right to n...Assalaamu alaikum dear sister...you are right to not get your hopes up that he will leave her...even if he says that he's planning on it. I've hurt myself over and over again because of this. Finally...I just don't believe my husband when he says it anymore. I think they get some sort of thrill out of the constant fighting and threats to leave...and now he's bringing that into our relationship. Our Rewards Await Ushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06773505084145959305noreply@blogger.com